November | 2014 | Mummascribbles
There’s one thing for sure and that’s that Zach is a daddy’s boy. If I think about it (and look at the photo above), he always has been, but more so recently, everything is about daddy. It pretty much goes like this:
Me: Let me put you in the highchair
Zach: Daddy do it
Me: Let me get you out of the highchair
Zach: Daddy do it
Me: Let me put you in the car
Zach: Daddy do it
Me: Let me get you out of the car
Zach: Daddy do it
Zach: See daddy Me: He’s in the shower
Cue tantrum because he wants to see daddy (he doesn’t care when I’m in the shower!)
Sometimes I’m pushing the shopping trolley and he quite simply wafts me away like an annoying bee and asks daddy to push!
When it’s just me and him, he spends most of the day asking for daddy. Daddy needs to be in the car as well, and daddy needs to come home from work, daddy is on the choo choo train, daddy is simply the bestest thing in the whole world and he wants him there all the time. In fact, I think that if one of us were to give up work, Zach would probably prefer for daddy to stay home with him!
Don’t get me wrong, Zach loves me. I see it every day, even when he is constantly asking for daddy. His face beams when I pick him up from nursery or my mum’s and he mentions me a lot, sometimes standing at the window singing mummy, where are you? However none of that seems equal to the utter excitable state he gets into when daddy comes home from work!
At first, I was a little offended, I often can’t help but wonder that if I didn’t have to travel with work and spend time away from home, would he be a mummy’s boy? Would everything be about mummy? Would we have a completely different relationship than we do now? Our relationship is amazing, I have no complaints, I just wonder if it would be different if I had a completely different job. On the basis that I have to work though, I’m not willing to give up a job I really enjoy for something mundane. I find having to work hard enough, let alone if it was a job I don’t enjoy!
I now just deal with the fact that Zach would prefer daddy to do everything. I don’t feel offended, I don’t feel sad, I just take a deep breath and hand over to daddy. In fact, sometimes I foresee things and just get daddy to do it before I get rejected!
So I’m interested, do it your children favour one parent over the other? Does it upset you or do you just get on with it like I’ve started doing? As long as I know I’m loved, that’s all that matters really.
*** Three quarters of the way through writing this post, we had to get Zach’s nappy changed and when I said let’s take your t-shirt off, he said daddy do it! I had to laugh!