“I wish someone had told me” – The getting older edition – Mummascribbles

Up until now, my “I wish someone had told me” posts have all been surrounding childbirth, babies, or parenting. But the other day I was thinking about ageing, and I was thinking about the bits on me that have changed that I wish I had known might happen. Because we all age in different ways, but I bet a lot of the same stuff happens to many of us and it annoys us. And if there’s one thing that always makes me happy, it’s to know that I am not alone in this kinda thing!

So what’s mine?

Well, it’s my skin. The one on my face.

You see growing up, I always had amazing skin and I very rarely got spots. Even when I was a teenager I didn’t suffer with them. Even when I ate chocolate and drank booze, I didn’t get them. Of course I wasn’t completely spot free, and when I did get one, it was huge. And that has been the case up until the last couple of years.

But now, at the age of 36, I have spots. Lots of them. But they are weird. Like they aren’t spots that you can really feel. It’s almost like they are under my skin and you can just see the bumpiness of them. They are almost more like a rash, but not a rash!

I think to most people they aren’t really noticeable, but to me – well I bloody hate them! Because they were never there before and it is something new that I am having to get used to. They are clearly not going to suddenly disappear one day – heck, they might be a permanent feature from hereon in. Something that has clearly come about in the ageing process.

And you know what else? I now get spots on my back too! I mean really. That is not acceptable. They aren’t there all the time, but they are definitely there a lot more than they used to be. The whole thing must be a change in my hormones or something. But whatever it is, I’m not a fan at all.

Despite the things that are starting to happen that are clearly making me realise that I am getting older (where have my youthful hands gone), I don’t really have an issue with getting older. I guess I don’t feel my age which probably helps. I won’t lie and say that I am completely happy with how I look in the mirror, facially and bodily, but I am definitely more comfortable in my own skin these days!

I reached out to my lovely blogging community to find out what they wish they had been told about getting older, and how they felt about ageing in general. It’s a pretty good read 🙂

That I would get more aches and pains. Sometimes just getting up off the sofa I click and ache like mad!

Ankle Biters Adventures

That I would be needing reading glasses at 33. I’m a nurse and recently it’s been harder to take out stitches as I can hardly see them!

Ready Freddie Go

That I’d feel 19 inside but everyone would look at me differently!!

Pink Pink Bear

To appreciate my youth, body and beauty more when I was younger. I was so hung up on stuff when I was younger and now I look at photos and think ‘why were you so worried?! You look so slim and young!’

Yammy Mommy

That I wouldn’t be able to go out partying until 3am when I got older. I’m lucky if I make it past 10pm these days!

The Family Ticket

That having HD Brows done, doesn’t last, and that I should really have done a lot more research on the beautician before booking my appointment. They look worse than before. And make me look like a 9 year old who’s found her mother’s make up collection! All I wanted was brows for my 30th!

My Family Of Roses

To do my kegels more when I was pregnant. I now wee when I cough and have a very urgent bladder, if you know what I mean!

A Rose Tinted World

To wear sun cream here in the UK and not just on holiday abroad! I wince when I think of how long I spent in the sun each summer without a care in the world and the damage it has done to my skin.

Ever After With Kids

More about perimenopause. I’m 49 and have suffered with symptoms for several years now. I wish I’d known it was so much more than hot flushes and that it can affect your body and mind for a decade in some cases. If I’d been more prepared, I could have helped myself much earlier.

Style Brief

I’m with Jen on this.

I have suffered from terrible side effects from being perimeno for 12 years now, but because at 49, 12 years ago seemed to be too early for the medical profession to see it, I even underwent an op that wasn’t necessary 😱

Also, use that face cream ladies and keep out of the sun!

I seriously abused sun and sun beds when it was an unknown and my skin has suffered because of it.

Spinnin Plates

That while the pregnancies, breastfeeding & sleepless nights would take their toll on my face, my husband remains annoyingly & infuriatingly exactly the same as he did 10 years ago!

Confessions of a Crummy Mummy

The importance of a good skincare routine. As I’ve gotten older (and wrinklier!), it’s harder and harder to disguise those dark circles under your eyes which keep getting bigger and bigger.

Twinderelmo

And if you are worried about getting old – it seems you shouldn’t be!

That ageing was nothing to be afraid of and is, dare I say it, somewhat fascinating. It can even be an opportunity to re-invent yourself.

Spitting Yarn

That turning 40 was nothing to worry about and that it’s never too late to learn new things or discover new passions.

Life, Love and Dirty Dishes

That age should be embraced as some people never get to see it, waking up each day is still something to celebrate…yes, even on THOSE days!

Dirt, Diggers and Dinosaurs

To stop wishing my life away. At 5 I wanted to be 10 so I was allowed to play across the road, at 10 I wanted to be 15 so I could go to the park with my friends, at 15 I wanted to be out in the clubs drinking, at 20 I wanted to be married with kids .. and now I am 30 I want to be 5 again!

My Bump To Baby

That the chubby cheeks I always hated and my oriental skin means that I won’t age as fast. People always think I’m a lot younger!

Mama Mei

Not to waste my youth hating myself and wanting to be someone else.

I also wish someone had told me and all other women that growing older is a blessing and a joy. I had a boyfriend who didn’t make it past 19 years old and I think of him every time I wish time would pass faster.

Wild Mama Wild Tribe 

That growing old is a privilege that some people will never get. I wish someone had told me that growing old – and the negative connotation associated, is because modern society has forced us to believe lines, wrinkles and grey hair make you less beautiful. I wish someone had told me, in some cultures, the women that grow old are revered as opposed to overlooked. These are the things I’ll tell my children.

Amy Treasure

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