Stepping out of my comfort zone now we have moved – Mummascribbles

I have always been a shy type. I was the girl who used to hide behind my Mum’s legs when she stopped to talk to someone in the street. I’m the girl who has always found it so hard to walk into a pub alone. I’m the girl who finds it really hard to start up a conversation with people, the girl that will hang at the back and let others strike the conversation. I have become a lot more confident over the years, but there is still an air of shyness about me. But having just moved to a new area where we don’t know anyone, I knew that I would have to overcome any reservations of meeting people. Now is the time I need to be brave and get to know people. We are planning on living here for a very long time. It is our forever home and so it is important that I don’t live a lonely life here. So, I have very much been stepping out of my comfort zone since we moved in.

We met a family in the park a couple of months ago and we exchanged numbers. They live just round the corner and the boys got on like a house on fire. We haven’t had a play date yet but have chatted a lot on Whatsapp and now the weather is nicer, I will ask them over for a garden date very soon!

Yesterday I took Zach for a walk as he had an inset day and we stumbled across a park. There was a little boy in there and the two of them became the best of friends. The little boy was only three and a half, but Zach is used to playing with kids that age as Oscar is four. They had an absolute blast together and I was talking to his Grandma who was with him. She suggested she take my number to pass on to her daughter and it wasn’t long before I had a Whatsapp message from her. We exchanged a few messages, discovered that we had passed each other on the river the previous day when we were canoeing, and we have arranged a playdate at the park on Saturday morning! And it turns out that the little boy will be going to school with Oscar 🙂

I had joined a couple of Mum friendship apps a while ago and changed the postcode on my profile when we moved so that people in my area would come up. I spoke to two main people – one who happens to have a child who is in Zach’s year at his school, and another child who is at nursery with Oscar and who is also going to the same school. The other Mum I spoke to lives a few doors away from me and I bump into her quite frequently!

And finally, probably the biggest thing I have done, is join the local netball team! I know right! Someone posted on our local group that the team was starting back on Monday and newbies were welcome, and I thought just bloody go for it Lisa. You want a bit more exercise, you need a hobby, and it is a great way to meet locals! So I put my name forward and I start on Monday night. I haven’t played netball since I was at school but I loved it at the time and these ladies are all pretty much in the same boat. We have all been chatting on Whatsapp, one lives in the next street, and then the rest are dotted round the town. It has been mentioned about going to the pub afterwards, and it has also been mentioned that we might meet up at one of their houses to get to know each other. I’m really excited to get to know this bunch of local ladies!

Thinking about it, I almost can’t believe that this is the same girl that I once was. Being pushed out of my comfort zone and being forced to make new friends in the area has definitely been the making of me!