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If you plan to sign a prenup or use a dowry for your marriage, it’s vital that you understand exactly what they are and the effect they’ll have further down the line. Take a look…

Marriages can be complicated at the best of times. While the romanticism of committing the rest of your life to the person you love is always going to be worth the effort, there are various potential complications that you and your partner will need to deal with. 

Prenups and dowries are two common matters associated with marriage that couples don’t always fully understand. This is the case despite them having incredibly important implications for the future of the marriage and the wider family. 

For instance, you’ll need to understand the legal implications of signing prenup and, before agreeing to a dowry, you may need to speak to Indian law solicitors in London for specific advice. In this post, we’ll take a closer look at what they both mean and some of the important associated questions that need answering. 

What is a Prenup?

A prenup (formally known as a prenuptial  agreement) are written agreements that you and your partner sign before you officially get married. They carefully detail exactly how your

shared assets, such as property and pensions, will be divided, as well as what arrangements should be made for any children in the relationship.

While many divorces or separations are often amicable, there are certain occasions where the situation can quickly turn sour. So, the main aim of a prenup is to reduce the potential of any lengthy and costly disputes occurring if you and your partner separate.

When a prenup is signed, both you and your partner can rest assured that both of your independent financial and practical needs are going to be taken care of.

When Is a Prenup a Good Idea?

Some people may think that signing a prenup isn’t for them – especially as it isn’t the most traditionally romantic approach. That said, it’s surprising how many situations it’s useful for.

There are a number of reasons why getting a prenup may be a good idea, including:

· You or your partner earns significantly more than the other

· You or your partner has valuable assets they want to protect

· You or your partner is a business owner · Either one of you is in debt 

· There are children in the relationship which come from another marriage

· There are pets involved in the relationship

· This is the second time you or your partner are marrying

Of course, these sorts of subjects can be a little sensitive, so it would pay to discuss their implications and how they might apply to a prenup well before the wedding date. This way, there is no pressure on either of you to sign something you’re not comfortable with.

Are Prenups Legally Binding?

The short answer to this question is no. The longer (and more helpful!) answer to this is that, while prenups are not legally binding, they do carry significant weight if they are brought to light during a contentious court case.

So, if you and your partner separate, and they contest anything contained within the prenup, a judge will tend to uphold the agree. For this to be the case, the prenup must have fulfilled specific legal requirements when it was signed. These requirements are:

· Both you and your partner received independent legal advice before signing

· You and your partner fully understood the implications of the prenup

· The prenup was fair to both parties

· The prenup is in the best interests of any children in the relationship

Can You Organise a Prenup After You Get Married?

Yes, it’s possible to organise an agreement after you are married. These are called postnups. They are usually identical to prenups, with the only difference being the point at which it is signed.

What is a Dowry?

A dowry is an ancient tradition found in a variety of different cultures and religions. The precise origin of the dowry isn’t known, but they still frequently take place in marriages today.

In most circumstances, a dowry is a gift of significant monetary value that the bride’s family gives to the groom’s family. The dowry is seen as a gesture intended to welcome the bride into the groom’s home.

The value of the dowry will depend on various factors, such as the family’s income and class, and doesn’t always have to be a cash sum. Gifts such as furniture, jewellery and livestock are common forms of dowries.

Why are Dowries Controversial?

Dowries are a source of controversy for a number of reasons. The first, and potentially most evident reason for their controversy, is the fact that they can place significant financial strain on the bride’s family. And, if the bride’s family are not in a position to raise a gift, this can present further issues.

Acts of domestic abuse and violence against women are intrinsically linked to dowries, usually because the bride’s family are unable to provide a suitable gift, and the groom’s family try to extract a higher dowry. This has resulted in the ban of dowries in a number of countries around the world, such as India and Pakistan.

Do Dowries Take Place in the UK?

Despite being banned in many countries around the world, dowries are surprisingly still legal in the UK. In 2014, The Independent launched an investigation into dowry violence in the UK, discovering that women are facing domestic abuse stemming from financial disputes with their in-laws.

Charities that work with women who are affected by dowry violence claimed that hundreds of cases were recorded, but there wasn’t a single police force which kept any data on it.

In 2014, police chiefs pledged that they would be creating a new system to tackle dowry violence, incorporating dowry violence into the training of 140,000 police officers up and down the country.

Do You Have Any More Questions About Prenups or Dowries?

Hopefully this post has shed some further light on both prenups and dowries and what sort of implications they might have for your marriage.

If you have any more questions or thoughts about prenups, dowries, or any other marriage matter, feel free to leave a comment below.